Matt Tolbert | Intended Dad

I’m not the cook 😅 #babynames #girlnames #comedy #futuredad #fyp

One of the questions we get asked most often is about the financial side of our international surrogacy journey. Here’s a breakdown of what we’ve spent to date on our two concurrent surrogacy journeys: INITIAL STEPS & EARLY PREP: - Sperm/Blood Testing: $652 - Travel for Sperm Deposits: $2,380 - First Big Baby Purchase (a crib!): $196 (used a gift card for the second crib) - Citizenship Process (application fees, shipping): $406 CORE SURROGACY & MEDICAL (through our incredible agency & clinics): This is the most significant portion and includes payments to our amazing egg donor and wonderful surrogates, agency fees, and comprehensive medical costs for the IVF processes. - Main Agency, Donor, Surrogate & Core Medical Fees: $118,295 - Additional PGT-A Testing: $4,520 - Embryo Glue: $4,278 - Additional Embryo Transfer: $6,920 PREPARING FOR THEIR ARRIVALS (partial costs booked): - Initial Travel & First Month's Stay in Mexico for Births: $5,891 (our initial flights down and the first month of our Airbnb - return flights and additional months are part of our ongoing projected costs!) THE TALLY SO FAR: Bringing us to a total spent so far: $143,538 Remaining Projected Costs (over the next ~11 months): ~$78,028 Which would bring our Total Projected Costs to: ~$221,566 We’re sharing this not for sympathy, but for transparency, and for those of you exploring similar paths to have a real-world example. Every journey is unique, and costs can vary wildly, but knowledge is power. #surrogacycosts #realtalk #ivfjourney #financialtransparency #lgbtqfamily #dadstobe #internationalsurrogacy

Our IVF results 🤍 #ivf #surrogacy #twodads #ttc #fyp #expecting

not the sour gummy worms! 😭 #babynames #surrogacy #dadtobe

Replying to @katielucht4 J2’S FIRST STRUCTURAL ULTRASOUND RESULTS! #ivf #surrogacy #futuredad #dadtobe #fyp

Replying to @uhwhome Ever wonder how egg donation actually works? Here’s the science behind how we got 40 eggs for our surrogacy journey. 🤯 It doesn’t take from a donor's future supply, it just rescues eggs that would have been lost anyway. Next up: these 40 eggs became 2 pregnancies! #eggdonation #ivf #surrogacy #LearnOnTikTok #sciencefacts #fyp #twodads

Replying to @nikkileannejones J2’S 2ND BETA TEST RESULTS! 😅 #surrogacy #ivf #futuredad #fyp #twodads

How many watches did it take? 😅 #dadtobe #futuredad #expecting #fyp

An important update on our second baby, J2. Sharing some unexpected news and what comes next for our family. Thank you for all your support. ❤️ #surrogacy #update #dads #family #fyp #digeorgesyndrome

Replying to @Jenny WHEN IS J2’S SEX REVEAL!? 🤔 #surrogacy #ivf #futuredad #fyp #twodads

Replying to @zakcunnington can’t stop won’t stop 🍼 #babynames #boynames #comedy #futuredad #fyp

Replying to @daniswimmist Double-tap if you’re excited for baby news! 🙌 #surrogacy #ivf #futuredad #fyp #twodads

Naming strategies 👇 1. The Barista & Backyard Test Say it out loud. Yell it across a park. Have a Starbucks barista try to spell it. If it passes these real-world tests, you're on the right track. 2. The Boardroom & Playground Check Does the name sound just as good for a CEO as it does for a kindergartener? A great name should grow with them through every stage of life. 3. The Legacy Audit What story does the name tell? Look into its origin, meaning, and cultural significance. You're not just choosing a name; you're choosing their first chapter. 4. The Monogram Check Write out their potential initials (first, middle, last). You want to catch any accidental acronyms or unfortunate combinations before they're on a diploma. 5. The Popularity Pulse Check the Social Security Administration's data. Is the name timelessly popular or just trendy? Aim for a name that feels special without being tied to a fleeting moment. 6. The Sibling Synergy Test How do the names sound together? For us, with two on the way, we want names that feel like they belong to the same story, but can also stand strong on their own. 7. The Nickname Veto Consider every possible nickname, both good and bad. If there's a nickname you can't stand, decide if it's a risk you're willing to take. What's your #1 rule for choosing a name? #babynames #parentingtips #surrogacyjourney #twodads #nesting #dadtobe #namemeaning

Boy names I LOVE but won’t be using 💙 #nameinspo #boynames #boynamelist #babynames #babynameideas

Replying to @shannont007 FIRST BABY NAME CLUE! 😍 #surrogacy #ivf #futuredad #fyp #twodads

Replying to @bxlynn18 UPDATES ON M1 & J2! 🫶 #surrogacy #ivf #futuredad #fyp #twodads

4 people in a 1-bedroom NYC apartment! 🙈 #twodads #nurseryreveal #baby #couple #relationships #surrogacy

Happy 10th marriage anniversary to Papa, who wanted to be the tall one today ❤️ #pregnancyannouncement #2025baby #babyannouncement #miraclebaby #surrogacy #ivf #twodads

Replying to @lexileigh03 MEETING M1’S SURROGATE TOMORROW! 😱 #surrogacy #ivf #fururedad #fyp #twodads

Replying to @baxkl J2’S FIRST ULTRASOUND IS TOMORROW! 🤞 #surrogacy #ivf #futuredad #fyp #twodads