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Abusive Men know exactly what they are doing. The root cause of abuse is misogyny and sexism. It's not an opinion, it's a fact. Narcissism doesn't cause abuse. His mom didn't make him abusive. You didn't make him treat you this way. It's a much bigger issue, but they absolutely know what they are doing. Work with me in private sessions or group coaching programs or join me in the Toxic Free Relationship Club membership to gain access to 24/7, knowledge and healing. #traumabond #abusiverelationship #narcissist #powerandcontrol #control #coercivecontrol #chuckderry #cognitivedissonance #healingfromabuse #abusivemen #notallmen #patriarchy

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An apology needs to be specific to show genuine accountability and understanding. It demonstrates awareness of the harm caused, validates the other person’s feelings, and builds trust by taking responsibility. A vague apology often feels dismissive and insincere—exactly how a narcissist operates. Narcissists tend to avoid specific apologies because they don’t genuinely mean it; their aim is often to pacify or manipulate, not to take real accountability. True apologies pave the way for resolution and healing, but vague ones only perpetuate harm. The lack of specificity here doesn't make the person a narcissist. But this video is about how a narcissist might sound when they apologize. Join me in the Toxic Free Relationship Club membership to gain access to 24/7, community, resources, trainings, group and private coaching and more. #covertabuse #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship #narcissist #powerandcontrol #powerandcontrol #narcissist #narcissism #liar

Abusers are always kind. Always. They go back and forth between abusive and kind so you are confused and hooked. #covertabuse #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship #narcissist #narcissism #powerandcontrol #rebuilding #selfworth #cognitivedissonance

Replying to @mansplain6 This is for educational purposes only, for women, and this is a perfect example of how a predator speaks. Raise the bar and don't stay when he treats you badly. If men cared if it was all men, men would speak out against this. If they cared there would be men in this comment section outright saying this man is wrong but that won't happen. #covertabuse #negging #mansplain #narcissist #narcissism#liar #powerandcontrol #rebuilding #selfworth #notallmen

Have you found this hard to accept? That he is aware he is treating you badly? #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship#narcissist #manipulation#coercivecontrol#narcissist #narcissism #healingfromabuse

The entitled, superior, angry, controlling part will always be there because that's the real him. Save yourself. He's not some broken little boy. The good you see in him is manipulation. We need to stop seeing abusive men as broken or traumatized because abuse is a choice. #covertabuse #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #narcissist #narcissism #liar #powerandcontrol #rebuilding #selfworth #toxicrelationship #narcissist #narcissism #powerandcontrol #rebuilding #selfworth #cognitivedissonance

How has gift giving in special occasions gone in your relationship? I got Lily's when I literally hate them. Join my membership The Toxic Free Relationship Club to heal, focus on yourself and grow. #covertabuse #traumabond #traumabondrecovery#abusiverelationship #narcissist#narcissism#liar#powerandcontrol #narcissism#manipulation #ValentinesDay #ungrateful

How has your abusive partner responded to special occasions? Some will give you flashy gifts in front of others to make it seem like they are a good person. Some will ignore it - especially if you care about it. Some will embarrass you. How has yours been? #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship#toxicrelationship #narcissist#powerandcontrol#powerandcontrol#narcissist#narcissism#liar #ValentinesDay #narcissism

He knows what he is doing and he does it anyway. Let me help you exit this relationship. Recover and heal from this relationship. Let's talk. Book a Breakthrough Session with me. #covertabuse #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship #narcissist#narcissism #powerandcontrol#rebuilding#selfworth #cognitivedissonance

Did blocking them work? #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship #narcissist #narcissism #liar #manipulation #powerandcontrol #rebuilding #selfworth #cognitivedissonance

Work with me in private sessions or in the Toxic Free Relationship Club membership to become clear, free and happy. #covertabuse #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship #narcissist #powerandcontrol #powerandcontrol #narcissist #narcissism #liar

Leaving him was only the first step. Now there are all these feelings to deal with. Anger. Closure. Grief. Self blame. Guilt. What else are you feeling? #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship#narcissist #manipulation#coercivecontrol#narcissist#narcissism #healingfromabuse #healingstrong #rebuilding

Men have been SOCIALIZED to believe they need it to connect emotionally but its interesting how the story always changes. It's only an emotional connection when it serves them to say it and then it means nothing 2 minutes later. Men don't like women. They want proximity. They want labor. They want sex. But they don't LIKE women. #traumabond #abusiverelationship #narcissist #powerandcontrol #traumabondrecovery #abuse #sexualabuse

No but for real. Why do these toxic boy moms enable their sons? Yes we know it's not all but it's way too many. I love to hear "no my ex's mom supports me". But that's not most. Moms don't cause the sons abusiveness. Society and other men do. But they can enable it. Some do it bc they feel guilty or responsible for his actions so they deny its bad. Some can't reconcile her little boy with the reality of his abusive behaviour, many cultures believe boys should be protected while women should be held accountable (you know like... Christianaity...) She may be afraid to lose him if she stands up for him. It's easier for her to blame you in the same way society blames victims. The list goes on. What reasons do you suspect for your abusers mom? (No, they aren't all narcissists too!) #traumabond #abusiverelationship #narcissist #powerandcontrol#manipulation #healingfromabuse #mom #parenting #narcissism #liar#manipulation #gaslighting#abuserecovery

What did he say to confuse you into thinking it wasn't abuse or that bad? Join the conversation. The Toxic Free Relationship Club is open 24/7 for support, resources, group programs, book club, chats and more. #traumabond #abusiverelationship #narcissist #powerandcontrol #manipulation #narcissism #narcissist #traumabondrecovery #traumabond

Why do you always want to argue? It's like you like to fight. It's not a big deal, why are you making this an issue? What has your abuser said to shut down you bringing up that you have an issue? #traumabond #abusiverelationship #narcissist #powerandcontrol #traumabondrecovery #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship #narcissist #powerandcontrol #powerandcontrol #narcissist #narcissism #liar

He's fighting to maintain control, not fighting bc he loves you. #covertabuse #traumabond #traumabondrecovery#abusiverelationship #narcissist#narcissism#liar#powerandcontrol#narcissism#manipulation #control #coercivecontrol

It's a concept I will never understand. You're not friends with your abuser. They are using this to manipulate you. Being civil and reducing any conflict for your kids, absolutely. But not friends. #covertabuse #coparenting #deadbeat #toxicrelationship #narcissist#narcissism #divorce #traumabond #traumabondrecovery #healingfromabuse #selfworth #powerandcontrol

They are the absolute worst parents but will pretend to be amazing. We see through it. Abusive men will say if you can't support your kids give them to Dad. Dad can't pay child support so how would be afford the kids? Lol. No parent should be able to financially abandon their kids. Abusive Dad's don't even want custody they just want Mom to struggle. #powerandcontrol #manipulation #narcissism #narcissist #traumabondrecovery #coparenting #custody #abusiverelationship #divorce